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5 Ways to Achieve Work-Life Harmony

22/5/2025

 
By Dr. Joti Samra, CEO & Founder of the Psychological Health & Safety (PH&S) Clinic and MyWorkplaceHealth
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We’ve all heard the advice of striving for work-life balance. This suggests, for most of us, that work is tipping the scales and we need to spend more time on other aspects of our non-work personal lives – and in some cases to ‘get a life’. The reality of modern-day work structure – right or wrong – is that we now work longer hours than ever. The modern-day work environment and global economy, combined with technology which now allows us to work 24/7, along with the cost of living makes it increasingly more difficult to achieve balance: if we look at this as an actual scale, for most of us, work is going to significantly tip the scales based simply on the number of hours we spend working.

Work-life balance also suggests that portions of our lives should be separated into different sections but it isn’t always that simple. Many of us choose our profession based on something we are passionate about or we feel gives us meaning. Therefore, it isn’t always easy to separate work and life. So, rather than striving for work-life balance, we should be thinking about achieving work-life harmony. This means arranging the different aspects of our lives so that they work together in harmony – like an orchestra.

What can we do to achieve work-life harmony?

1. Make conscious choices


Conductors create great harmonies by getting different instruments in the orchestra to work together effectively and by emphasizing different instruments at different times. For us, this means ensuring we make conscious choices about the activities we engage in, including work, and what is important to us. This also means attempting to have a plan in regards to the time we spend. Whenever possible make conscious decisions about how much we are going to work and how we are going to spend the rest of our time.

2. Work with passion

When possible work in a field that we can be passionate about, or find aspects of our current position that we love. Research suggests that we are happier and more invested in our work when we can find meaning in that work.

3. Prioritize working with people we like

Since we are spending a significant portion of time with our co-workers, our relationship with them can affect how we feel throughout the day. We are likely to be happier if we enjoy the people we are working with. This could mean choosing to spend more time with the people we like and get along with at work or building better relationships with the people we work with. Alternatively, if we are working with people we don’t get along with we should attempt to manage those relationships or conflicts better, or even consider switching work environments, if possible. 

4. Stay active and get rest

Exercise and sleep have a positive impact on our brain function and our productivity at work. While our busy lives don’t always make it easy for us to get the optimal amount of activity or rest (in addition to everything else), something is better than nothing. Consider starting small and finding ways to incorporate movement into the workday (such as walking or biking to work, using a stand-up desk or exercise ball instead of a standard chair, or incorporating a walking meeting into your schedule).

Sleep is especially important when it comes to our focus, productivity, and creativity at work. Establishing a sleep routine – where we go to bed at the same time every night and wake up at the same time every morning – can help us achieve a more restful sleep. If a routine isn’t possible, there are a number of ways to increase our sleep hygiene that may be easier to incorporate into your schedule.

5. Don’t let obstacles or limitations overwhelm

Obstacles and setbacks are a part of everyone’s lives but how we deal with them has a significant effect on our attitude as well as whether or not we are able to overcome them. Remaining optimistic and positive in the face of limitations and obstacles helps us become more resilient.

While remaining positive or optimistic in all situations can be difficult, sometimes it’s about finding one small, good thing in the tough moments that are out of our control. For example, many of us commute to work. There are times that we are in a rush and we get stuck in traffic. Rather than allowing this to anger us and start our day off negatively, we can refocus our energy on music, or an audiobook or podcast to bring harmony back into that moment.

Shifting our focus from balance to harmony

We’ve been conditioned to think that true happiness lies in achieving a balance between our work and our personal lives. But with technology and the shift of work from something that pays our bills to a passion project, balance no longer means what it did 10 years ago. Instead, work-life harmony allows us to think about our lives differently. It becomes less about tipping an imaginary scale and more about the imaginary orchestra you can create.

What is Burnout

7/3/2024

 
By Darby Eakins, CBT Therapist and certified Psychological Health & Safety (PH&S) Advisor
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What is burnout?

While burnout is not officially recognized as a diagnosable mental illness, recent research (Koutsimani, 2019) suggests that even though it’s often associated with anxiety and depression, it appears to be a robust and stand-alone construct. The World Health Organization defines burnout as “a feeling of intense fatigue, loss of control, and an inability to produce concrete results at work.” 
Another definition indicates burnout is “a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress.” It’s always associated with work, and while it was initially reserved for those in caring roles (nurses, doctors, social workers and teachers), we now know that all workers can be exposed to burnout.
Folks with burnout will often meet the criteria for depression and/or anxiety, and some will even meet the criteria for PTSD. In my case, I met the criteria for all three. But with the context of work removed or the organizational issues remedied, most folks will recover.

Burnout Risk Factors & Facts
  • No one is immune to burnout, and it equally affects men and women.
  • No age group appears to be at higher risk than another.
  • 1 in 4 Canadian workers report being stressed, 60% of these say that work is the source of their stress.
  • There is no clear understanding of exactly what conditions lead to burnout, except that all workers who experience burnout have been experiencing chronic stress, and it arises out of workplace factors as well as personal factors.
  • Burnout is more than an individual issue, and research shows that a combination of individual and systemic factors lead to burnout.  
  • Organizational risk factors include: work overload, lack of autonomy, inability for individuals to participate in decisions that impact their work, an imbalance between perceived efforts made and the recognition received (salary, esteem, respect, etc.), poorly defined responsibilities, insufficient communication, ambiguous roles, unhealthy atmosphere, difficult schedules.
  • Individual factors that put someone at higher risk of burnout include: having high expectations of oneself, making work the sole focus of one’s life, perfectionistic perspectives, having a heightened professional conscience, not knowing how to delegate, personal factors such as family responsibilities or loneliness.


Burnout and the National Psychological Safety Standard

The National Psychological Safety Standard (The Standard) defines a psychologically healthy and safe workplace as “a workplace that promotes workers’ psychological well-being and actively works to prevent harm to worker psychological health, including in negligent, reckless or intentional ways.” (National Standard of Canada for Psychological Health and Safety in the Workplace (CAN/CSA-Z1003-13/BNQ9700- 803/2013) 

The Standard outlines 13 risk factors for psychological safety at work: 
  1. Organizational Culture: Employees hold common norms, values, beliefs, meanings, and expectations. They are then used as behavioural and problem-solving cues.
  2. Psychological and Social Support: Approaches, services and benefits addressing worker mental health.
  3. Clear Leadership and Expectations: Workers know what they are expected to do through effective leadership; changes are shared in a timely manner; helpful feedback is provided on expected and actual performance; and the organizations provide clear, effective communication.
  4. Civility and Respect: People treat each other fairly and with respect.
  5. Psychological Demands: There is a good fit between employees’ interpersonal and emotional competencies and the requirements of the position they hold.
  6. Growth and Development: Workers receive encouragement and support in the development of their interpersonal, emotional, and job skills.
  7. Recognition and Reward: Immediate supervisor appreciates work; staff are paid fairly for work done; accomplishments are celebrated; and, worker’s commitment and passion for their work is valued.
  8. Involvement and Influence: Workers are included in discussions about how their work is done and involved in important decisions that impact their role.
  9. Workload Management: Assigned responsibilities can be accomplished successfully within the time available.
  10. Engagement: Workers enjoy their job and are proud to be a part of the success of the organization.
  11. Balance: A work environment where there is acceptance of the need for a sense of harmony between the demands of personal life, family, and work.
  12. Psychological Protection: The organization deals effectively with situations that can threaten or harm workers (including bullying and harassment).
  13. Protection of Physical Safety: Worker’s psychological and physical safety is protected from hazards and risks related to the work’s physical work environment.

A lack of effective risk mitigation strategies and psychological safety-enhancing strategies across most of the above factors can contribute to burnout risks. In particular: clear leadership and expectations, psychological demands, growth and development, recognition and reward, involvement and influence, workload management and balance are some of the most likely areas of organizational risk associated with burnout.

Preventing and Recovering from Burnout

Burnout does not happen overnight. It is insidious and creeps in over time. Symptoms that may arise include: fatigue, pain, digestive problems, stomach ulcers, skin problems, disrupted sleep, weight loss or gain, frequent illnesses, constant loss of motivation with regard to work, detachment from work, pronounced irritability, spontaneous anger, feelings of incompetence, inefficiency and exhaustion, a desire to isolate oneself, a feeling of failure, a drop in self-confidence, anxiety, worry, insecurity, difficulty concentrating, loss of memory, difficulty in using good judgement, indecision, confusion, and in the most serious cases, suicidal thoughts.

Preventing Burnout

From a prevention perspective, it’s important to notice the flags and risks of burnout to mitigate them in yourself:
  • Pay attention to changes, such as sleep disturbances or increased irritability
  • When you notice flags, pause and reflect on what has become out of balance for you and implement strategies to get back on track: 
    • good sleep hygiene
    • exercise
    • healthy nutrition
    • activities outside of work that bring you joy
  • If you are noticing systemic issues contributing to your burnout (i.e., unreasonable workload), talk with your leader early on to seek support in prioritizing and managing workload.  Ask about mentorship or coaching opportunities.
  • Take breaks – leave your workspace and change your environment during a break.
  • Set boundaries – do this with emails and phone calls outside of work hours.

Recovering from Burnout 

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From a recovery perspective, it’s important to navigate to resources for support: 
  • Seek support from a qualified psychotherapist (counsellor or psychologist) to help you recover and realign.
  • Find out about your work’s supports such as Employee Family Assistance Programs and Disability Management supports.
  • Understand your extended health benefits and utilize them.
  • Talk with your doctor about your burnout, and participate in medical interventions as needed.
  • Take time away or reduce your work schedule, if possible and/or needed.
  • Gradually return to work if you take a leave, and implement your new strategies to manage your health and wellness at work in a balanced way.
  • Understand that burnout is something that happened to you, not something you did, and recovery is within your power to achieve.
  • If you need to, and are able, consider changing jobs or companies if you are not supported to being healthy and well while at work.

Helping Someone Who’s a Workaholic

3/8/2023

 
By Dr. Joti Samra, CEO & Founder of the Psychological Health & Safety (PH&S) Clinic and MyWorkplaceHealth
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Is someone you care about working themselves so hard it may be damaging to their health? Maybe they aren’t just exhausted, but are starting to isolate themselves? Or they’re tired enough that they’re putting themselves at risk every time they drive home – many people don’t consider the fact that tiredness at the point of exhaustion is the same as impaired driving. Or, they may be engaging in unhealthy behaviours such as excessive drinking or overeating as a way to self-soothe or self-medicate.

When putting in a few too many hours becomes a problem

With overworking there are two major issues: The person’s decision to work an inordinate number of hours, and the resultant impacts on their health.
Keep in mind that the person’s decision to work the number of hours they are working may not be completely voluntary. There are a number of reasons a person may need to – or feel they need to – work these hours, some of which may include: high living expenses or debts, significant changes to life circumstances, working following a period of unemployment or preparing for retirement.

Have empathy & be kind

Whatever their reason, try to understand where they are coming from. It can feel awful to be in a position where you are uncertain about your future, particularly as we age. They are probably worried about the future, as well as frustrated or even angry at themselves, or their past circumstances. The reality is that they may need to be working at the level they are to pay the bills or have the future they once imagined.

Starting a conversation

First, ensure the conversation takes place during a time when you are both feeling relaxed. Remember to keep the conversation light and supportive, and be mindful that they probably will have a lot of pride around these issues. Start with a conversation about their future and talk generally about what their hopes and dreams are. This may help you get a picture of what they’re working toward.
Gently inquire about whether the means they are currently adopting (in other words, the hours worked) are necessary to achieve those goals. If appropriate, offer to help them with planning – you may suggest that they could find it helpful to sit down with a financial advisor who can map out plans in more detail.

Key messages to communicate

After you’ve had the opportunity to talk with your loved one about the future and gained some insight into their goals and underlying values associated with work, then, in a separate conversation, you can express your concerns about their health. Here are some suggestions about how to approach this topic:
  • Describe what you are seeing. Be specific and objective. For example, have you directly observed their driving difficulties, or unhealthy alcohol or food patterns – or other problems that have resulted from overwork? Imagine being a fly on the wall and describe what you have seen specifically – such as “I’ve noticed over the past few months that your after-work drink has turned into half a bottle or more – I wonder if this has helped manage the stress you’re under?” rather than “I know you’re using alcohol to deal with stress”. Acknowledge and validate how the unhealthy behaviour may be serving some useful function.
  • Tell them directly how you feel. Share that you are worried and want to see them as healthy as possible and that you don’t want your intent to come across as critical or judgmental.
  • Ask if there is anything you can do that may help. Offering to help or support them may be the lifeline they need to take a step back from work or change their unhealthy work patterns.
  • Offer to go to their family physician with them to talk about possible causes and contributions. It’s amazing how often people will be more willing to heed the advice from a professional.
  • If they are resistant to make a change, and you have concerns about their driving, you have an obligation to inform their family doctor. Consent issues do not apply here – meaning that if you have some concerns about risk, it is in your right to call their physician (the doctor cannot release any information back to you without the individuals’ consent).

Unfortunately, you can’t magically get your loved one to value their health more than work, but you can guide them toward possible solutions that improve the situation. Visit MyWorkplaceHealth.com for more workplace resources.

Editor’s Note: This post was originally published as part of a Globe and Mail “Ask the Psychologist” column authored by Dr. Samra, and has been edited and updated.

The Slow Slide into Burnout: A Personal Story

30/3/2023

 
By Darby Eakins, CBT Therapist and certified Psychological Health & Safety (PH&S) Advisor
The Slow Slide into Burnout: A Personal Story

The Crash

At first, I was convinced I had food poisoning. Then, fatigue overtook me that was so intense I wondered if I was severely physically ill.

“Could it be cancer?” 

For three days, I could do little more than move from my bed to the washroom and back. My body felt weighted down, I moved slowly, I had a hard time thinking in full sentences. Usually high energy, multi-tasking and energetic, I was a shell of my typical self. I was too tired to even watch Netflix. Sometimes I just stared out the window. Sometimes minutes crawled by.  Other times, I lost hours that felt like a blink of the eye. I didn’t know what I wanted at any given moment. “Am I hungry?” (Shrug). “Am I sleepy?” (Shrug). And so it went.

I did not cry, at least not at first. I did not have a panic attack. I did not do the things you see on TV when someone crashes and burns. I just stopped.  

My body would not let me move forward any longer. My brain felt like it was soaked in molasses. I was exhausted. But I was so exhausted, I couldn’t even muster the acknowledgement of my own exhaustion. I just stopped. Like a computer that gets overloaded and freezes, I needed a reboot. 

“What’s wrong with me? Could this be depression?” 

Ultimately, I was experiencing burnout (solidified by a trifecta of moral distress, vicarious trauma and compassion fatigue), and it took me 3 months before I was able to resume work again, and another many months to achieve optimal functioning afterward.

A Slow BurnIn hindsight, I can see the flags waving to get me to notice what was happening, as I ground myself to a pulp trying to keep my high-wire juggling act going.

It happens slowly. Starts with a little misstep here and there, a little lost sleep, a little extra stress, but every time I noticed I was off-balance, I made an excuse and brushed it aside.

Have you ever been to one of those “build-your-own frozen yogurt” shops? Where you can select from a range of toppings to add? Have you ever got to the end and put your overloaded cup on the scale to see you owe $30. It was just coconut sprinkles at first, and then the berries, and then the chocolate…oooh, there’s candy!  My burnout was like that. Each topping of stress, just a little on top until my cup was overloaded.

First, I missed a couple of workouts. “Oh, I’ll get back on track after this big meeting.”

Then I stopped running and working out entirely.

Then, I stopped packing lunches, or even taking a lunch. Instead, grabbing whatever was fastest to stuff down between meetings. “Oh, this month has been busy, but it will be better next month.”

Then I stopped taking breaks altogether.

Then I started checking emails before and after work. Then responding to emails after the kids were in bed.

Then taking calls and emails on weekends.

Then saying “yes” to new projects.

Then extending my work days to “catch up.”

Then I stopped sleeping.

Then I was working until 3 am some nights.

Then I was actually trying to be in multiple places at once by responding to emails while on video conferences, or taking meetings in my car while I drove between cities.
Just one more topping of stress on top of the other, constantly telling myself “oh it’s just a little on top.”

The Tightrope ActI was so excited about a newly created management position, that I returned to work early from maternity leave when my second child was 7 months old. The scope was massive, the expectations high (and sometimes unclear, often shifting). I was up to the task. I was a brand new manager, leading a team of professionals in a subject matter that was new to me. I was up to the task. 

In the midst of this all, we purchased and moved into a new home with our two young sons –  ages 1 and 4.  By the end of my first year in the position, I was running several large scale projects, leading a team of professionals, and redesigning various program deliveries in a highly politicized context. I cared deeply about the work I was doing and told myself “eye on the prize” aiming to make a positive impact for the organization. Yet, I was still getting up multiple times in the night with my baby to nurse for the first year of my the position (often checking emails on my work phone, while my baby nursed).

The more depleted I became, the more I rationalized. I didn’t know how to ask for help or what to do. I thought it was my own issue and I just needed to learn how to be a better manager.

“It’s just a learning curve.”
“The organization is just in a time of transition.”
“Next month will be better.”
“Toughen up.”
“Get more efficient.”
“Carve out more time.”
“Be more productive with the time you have.”
“Once this project is done, things will be better.” 

But I failed to realize that running at 150% at all times, with no balance in wellness is not sustainable. I failed to notice that with each passing month, things got worse, not better. 

The Perfect Storm

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No one thing caused me to experience burnout, but an accumulation of things resulted in the perfect storm for my crash: poor leadership and expectations, a lack of support for my growth and development, minimal recognition or reward, minimal involvement or influence, a workload that far exceeded my capacity, depleted harmony between my work and personal life, a sense of isolation and a culture that had constantly changing norms and values all combined with my high work ethic, deep passion for my work, and strong professional conscientiousness and perfectionism over time to completely deplete my resources.

Rebooting

I took time away from work, I rested, I healed, and I got better. The resources that helped me heal was an interdisciplinary support network, including a robust and well-organized disability management program, a supportive counsellor through the company’s Employee Family Assistance Program, a strong support from my family physician and my family support network, and subsequent leadership coaching provided to me when I returned to work.  

Almost 2 years after my burnout experience,  I’ve now experienced the power of the National Psychological Safety Standard as a practitioner, but also as an employee who benefited from an effective recovery process after experiencing burnout.

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